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  Am I wasting my time?

  by mrhhome in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am the husband of an ex-jw.

  she left when she was 18, because she was dating a non-jw.

  they got married, and he began openly cheating on her.

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  My first cigar

  by LivingTheDream in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my first cigar.

  not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.

  i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.

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  Open Mind, maybe I will try it!
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  My first cigar

  by LivingTheDream in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my first cigar.

  not soon after i faded, i was on a company shindig and they were providing hand rolled cigars to everybody there.

  i watched in amazement as this dominican guy rolled them in front of my eyes with great care and skill.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I am saving this post because my husband enjoys a cigar especially after he golfs. Maybe I will buy him a humidor for Christmas along with some very nice cigars. I don't know if he has a cutter or one of the nice lighters someone mentioned but they are great gift ideas. It is still a little uncomfortable for me knowing he does it once in awhile, still trying to get all of that stupid JW stuff out of my head. My husband actually started enjoying them right before we faded. He is almost 60 and decided he was going to enjoy whatever time he has left! I have smoked cigarettes but never tried a cigar. I don't care for the smell but I do like the smell of some pipe tabacco. Enjoy Guys!
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  New book "Journey to God's House" 3 free signed copies giveaway

  by LivingTheDream in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  hey folks, .

  goodreads is having free giveaway of 3 signed copies of my new book: "journey to god's house".

  nothing required, just sign up for it!

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  Aunt Fancy

  I just finished reading the book and thoroughly enjoyed it. I am one of the ones that would love to hear the rest of your story!
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  If you don't believe in God where do you get the strength to cope?

  by Miss.Fit in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know there are some here that are going through some tough times.

  some of you do not believe in god.

  some are not sure.. i was told recently by a friend to pray to god for help and he would comfort me.. my first impulse is to pray.

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  Miss Fit, do NOT give up. I have been there before and your family needs you very much. Many of us have had those same feelings and I will tell you that going to a therapist helps a lot. I have a whole new outlook on life and I am living it and enjoying it. We faded a year ago and believe me when I tell you that it does get better. It is very difficult to go through but there are good times waiting for you.

  It is very common when you leave a cult to feel all alone but you have to get out there and make new friends. Find what you love to do and then get involved in something, art, charity work, sports whatever makes you happy.

  Also there are good books to read that will help you get your thoughts together. The Slight Edge is one and The Unthethered Soul is another. I don't find a need to talk to something I don't even know is there or cares about me. I talk to my husband when I need some encouragement or one of my family memeber and that is the beauty of having a therapist too.

  Please get some help and if you are feeling that low. The religion made me so low I felt just like you and I finally was able with professional help to see what it was doing to me.

  Your life will get better, you just have to take action.

  We are always here for you and hang in there, just remember your family loves you and so do we!!

  Aunt Fancy
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  Interview with "Journey to God's House" author Brock Talon on JWStruggle

  by RayPublisher in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my interview with "journey to god's house" author brock talon is on my jwstruggle youtube channel.. brock talks about writing the book, his background as a former jw, and more.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nvz-jxx4bpc.

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  I enjoyed the interview and I am almost through with the book, so far I have enjoyed it.
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  Feeling Disfellowshipped

  by meep5 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  let me briefly explain my back-story: i grew up in a jw household and was technically a jw until 20 years old.

  i stopped attending meetings in 1998 and told my parents i was done in 1999. i'm not sure where i saw my future when i was 19 but i know for a fact i didn't see myself as a "witness" then.

  i hated the hypocrisy and the extreme gossip.

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  Welcome Meep,

  Most of us on here understand what you are going through. It is very difficult when your family shuns you and it is not a loving practice. It is good to hear you got out at a young age and got your life together.

  Congratulations on your new baby and it is so nice that you are raising your children to enjoy their life and to make something of themselves. You are fortunate that your family is out but you are right that it is hard for others to understand what it is like to be in a cult.

  Hang in there and we are here to listen.
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  Thank you Simon - My Post Count is back !

  by LoisLane looking for Superman in

  1. forum
  2. tech-support

  we all have our gifts.

  and it work is one of yours, not mine.

  lol

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  Aunt Fancy

  Thanks Simon, I too missed the post count and happy to see it back!
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  Reverse-Witnessing leaves me mentally and emotionally drained...

  by ILoveTTATT in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hi dear friends!.

  i am doing some stealth reverse-witnessing, and i have succeeded in at least two people seeing ttatt, one being my friend and the other being my dad (although my dad has a longer route to take to exit the wts, and i have to slowly chip away at the illusion).... the illusion of jw's is very strong.

  they give an illusion of being moral and decent people, and that may be true just because the majority of the people they attract are just being deceived, or i really like to believe that and hope for the best.. what i hate and leaves me emotionally drained are jw apologists.

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  When my hubby and I first found out about TTATT we felt the same way you did, and we wanted to help others out. We were able to help a few but we soon realized that we wanted to live our life and do other things with it. I remember we were thinking of everyone we could help out and it became an obsession with us but I think you will soon realize there is very little you can do for most of them and just be there for those coming out who may need some help. Continue to try to help those you think are on the edge but be careful because you could end up branded as an apostate when you aren't ready for that step. There are ways to help those who have left because they are still haunted by the lies and some have never researched even though they have left. This is an area we have been able to help some in. We are trying to be balanced and hopefully you will soon get this in balance. It is a good quality to help others out and you are very young so go out and enjoy your life and make new friends and maybe find a charity that you are interested in and help others. You will also find that it is a roller coaster ride. When we first left my emotions were all over the place and now after a year they are settling down some and there aren't nearly as many bad days. We are always here for you.
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  The final chapter in the confusedandalone story...

  by confusedandalone in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this morning i get a frantic call from my sister (who has been baptized 1 year and one month and never attends meetings anymore).

  in tears she tells me that this morning my father picked her up in the car and told her that i was am apostate.

  that i no longer loved jehovah and that i was going to be disfellowshipped.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Wow CAA, you have been through a lot. I too would never sit down and let three men interrogate me and try to make me feel bad about my life. You are not a coward, you choose not to let them abuse you and your family in any way. Your Dad sure has made a complete 180 since this started.

  from what you wrote it sounds like your new employee is opening her eyes.

  By the way, my husband enjoys what Terry writes too!

  You have to be in a lot of pain and it is a roller coaster ride but keep doing what you are doing and it will get better. We are a year faded and things are much better than they were a year ago. It does get a lot better. The anger does die down with time.